Yesterday, when arriving home, my husband and I discovered that one of our three remaining pets (a petite mare named Glory) had passed while we were at work. Although she had a medical condition, she was not showing symptoms of having problems when we left so finding her deceased later that day was unexpected. Insomnia being one of my expressions of grief… many things went through my mind during the night while we waited for enough light to bury her in the morning.
- Plans I had for her that were never made into memories for one excuse/reason or another.
- How to come to terms with the what ifs.
- The pros and cons of what her life with us was like and how she feels now, being free from her ailment.
Because of my faith, that is a bit easier for me than some… I believe now she is happy and will no longer suffer from her allergies in the spring or the cold of winter. Remaining with us are two aged pets (a draft horse Sampson and papillon Ping) and they, because we find ourselves unwilling to suffer the loss of any more, may be our last. The pain of more grief seemingly too much to bear?
So what is pain/suffering/grief and how do we get past it? There is no simple way to answer, except, you shouldn’t expect yourself to leave memories behind. Memories are a precious energy that knows nothing about past/present/future, an infinite entity where all creation exists. There are many ways to grieve and all of them very personal, not one is better or worse than the other. (((ALL ARE NECESSARY))) Nothing like getting the emotional wind knocked out of you… ESPECIALLY when there are just so many things already going on in the world! PLEASE… Give yourself a chance to figure out what in the heck just happened before you get back up on your feet? Much like Lamaze for labor, TAKE A BREATH and EMBRACE the pain.
NOW, in our time of grief, we are able to process what happened. Today as I look through my mental photo album of memories, I will choose those images of Glory that are whole, healthy and happy and place them in my heart. It is in THIS MOMENT that we, in our grief, are able to choose healing or suffering. It may seem strange to read that I am in pain but not suffering.
“Pain is certain, suffering is optional.”
“Have compassion for all beings, rich and poor alike; each has their suffering. Some suffer too much, others too little.”
“The root of suffering is attachment.”Buddha
Because Glory is free, and my faith knows she is in a better space, I AM OKAY.
Even in pain, I AM OKAY.
All we have to do is EMBRACE…